Secrets of Flirting Over Text

What to Message Girls

Because SMS messaging is a fairly new concept, many of us have never been shown the secrets to texting a girl. So naturally, most guys surely blow it  comes time to craft the perfect message.

Most guys misjudge the reason that a woman seems to quickly lose interest in them.  One of the biggest reasons a man will lose a woman’s interest is over during the “phone game.”

Texting girls is something that any guy can learn. But it takes practice, knowledge, and the ability to recognize what kind of messaging women respond to.

In order to figure out what kind of SMS attract a woman and keep her liking you, you must first realize what proper messaging should be used for.

3 Reasons for To Use Your Phone

Usually, a man will be using his phone for one of three purposes:

  1. He is trying to make an initial contact after meeting her out somewhere.
  2. He  just wants to keep himself in the girl’s mind until the next time he sees her.
  3. He is using texting to escalate his relationship with the woman to a more playful or sexual level.

Biggest Mistakes You Might Be Making

In a minute, I’m going to talk about how to text girls the right way… but first, I want to talk about some of the big mistakes you might be making with your cell phone.

Once you  overcome these errors, it will be a lot easier for you to reach your “phone game” goals.

Blunder #1: Sending a boring message serves no point. These sort of messages include; “How you doing?”  or “What”s going on?”  Texts like these DO NOT distinguish you from the hundreds of other guys that are also messaging the woman you’re talking to.

Blunder #2: The second big blunder is messaging a girl too much and too often.  SMS messages should be used in limited doses in order to create mystery, suspense, and intrigue.  If you are texting women all the time, they will stop looking forward to your messages.

Blunder#3: The final blunder guys make is they try to have a conversation over SMS.  Messaging shouldn’t be used as a way to get to know a girl.

Some other big blunders texting women:

  • Always messaging her back too quickly and appearing needy
  • Trying too hard to get her to like you
  • Letting the woman control the flow of messaging (ie. Is she always the one to end it??)
  • Not getting playful,”flirtatious,” or sexual in your  messages

Flirting Over the Phone

Every message you send should have some type of playfulness and flirtation.  You should always aim to demonstrate a fun side of your personality every time you are texting her.

During the first few  messages you are just trying to show her that you can be fun and  social around girls.    Your texts should always present the impression that you live a fun and adventurous life.

Stay light and playful, then jump into serious topics, and then back to being playful and flirtatious.

The technique is to banter with the girl back and forth and leave the interaction on a high note, by either stop texting her back, or by finishing it with a message like “talk later…”

It is also important to display small chunks of your personality in these messages, and avoid being boring like the plague.

This means you never make statements like “I’m bored,” or if she ask what you’re up to texting “Nothing special.”

Instead answer by being interesting, playful, and intriguing when SMS with a woman.

Now lets talk about the 3 rules to text flirting with girls.

{ 45 comments… read them below or add one }

Nuwan December 10, 2010 at 5:36 pm

I like talk to girl’s.

danny sanchez January 6, 2011 at 3:25 am

letz te and have some fun

John January 14, 2011 at 10:42 pm

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Preston Blain February 13, 2011 at 11:45 am

It’s good to give the girl a fun nickname. This is a great way to distinguish you from the other guys who she has had texts from. It’s fun and makes you much more memorable.

Bobby Rio February 26, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Sorry man, must have been an error something.. but I got the comment and agree with you that knowing how to text a girl makes it a lot easier to meet up with her… cuz if you’re good at texting a girl then by the time you finally see her, she’ll be pretty hot for you.

tad allagash February 26, 2011 at 3:25 pm

Here is a good text message to send a girl that I learned from Rob Judge…

“Drinks.. Later?”

So simple, but sends the exact message you want when texting a girl

Bobby Rio February 26, 2011 at 3:26 pm

hahah I read that same article, and stole that text message myself, and used it on some girl…

Worked really well.

Hermes February 26, 2011 at 3:29 pm

Guys If you haven’t listened to this:

I highly recommend it, as it has a really solid little example of something you can text a girl and get her really into you.

Carlos March 22, 2011 at 10:12 pm

Chica para sexo

Eric May 14, 2011 at 6:49 am

My nigga above me you said it. Lol texting a girl use to be all simple now it’s all complicated and shit

Nick June 16, 2011 at 11:27 pm

Naw theres this chick i talk to and she was always interested talking and stuff than is just went downhill and now i cant even think of anything to keep the conversation going and i cant think of topics either anymore.

angel June 24, 2011 at 4:02 pm

i wat to kiss a girls and i am a gir

justin resnick July 15, 2011 at 1:32 am

i find texting girls to be oodles of fun, they always play hard to get and never respond to me, i love it!

JT August 19, 2011 at 4:08 am

Nice stuff here and agreed that learning to flirt through text is will incresase the sexual tension.

Simple and effective.

Craap August 28, 2011 at 9:46 am

CRAP I did all those blunders LOL

ahmad September 12, 2011 at 12:53 am

i want to knw haw to mike test to my ex girlfreind to bring here back can some bady help me

Robinincarolina October 11, 2011 at 1:19 pm

Never underestimate the power of words on women. I have been swooned by a few master texters and I will say they ruined it for me with other guys who don’t know how. If a guy can’t entice me over text, I next him now. Seriously, we love mental stimulation.

jeffrey October 17, 2011 at 1:14 pm

awe man i do all that but im random and i still keep conversations fun and interesting well thats what my friends say

jeffrey October 17, 2011 at 1:15 pm

and i need some texting friends to any kind girls and guys lol

mkz October 30, 2011 at 2:17 pm

now that i have screwed it texting her a lot….what can i do now????

ferre November 2, 2011 at 9:04 pm

this is some cool stuff you have. awesome man keep it rolling. here’s something that I bumped into the other day.

‘Aren’t you tired?’ dude
‘what?’ babe
‘coz you’ve been running through my mind all day’ dude.

Works on some girls may sound a little cheesy. but not all. personally, i’ve tried it and response varies depending on the girl. Anyway, what have i got to lose? haha happy trying!

chris November 20, 2011 at 6:17 pm

I really want to know what to text a girl. Its hard to think of good texts to send. Do you have a book or guide on what to text a girl? I think it would be very helpful since most of my text messages are boring.

Joe November 20, 2011 at 6:18 pm

Hey Chris, I think if you read through this page you’ll find plenty of examples. The important thing is to be fun, playful, and to the point. There is no reason to dance around the topic of hanging out and spend weeks just texting back and forth.

Kate November 20, 2011 at 7:50 pm

Most of this is right. But as a girl that gets a lot of texts a day I must tell you that one things that turn me off in texts is not responding immediately (because if we text you then we’ll be waiting, I lose interest in a guy while waiting for a text from him, then an hour later when I get it I’m to busy to answer it)

yoyo November 26, 2011 at 10:14 pm

if u dont say “How you doing?” or “What’’s going on?”. what can u say or ask to get text back?

lindsayv21 December 2, 2011 at 12:11 am

did a guy make this?

Trevaughnte Dedmon December 2, 2011 at 2:46 am

What if she didn’t text back??

GlennP.UA December 4, 2011 at 2:39 am

Hey guys.. Just wanted to put my two cents in. There’s definitely some good stuff here for guys to learn about texting women and texting is basically the only to communicate with chicks after meeting them. The days of getting a girl on the phone are all but gone. Once and a while you’ll get a girl on the phone to flirt and get her to meet up but the odd’s are against you. So your text game has got to be ultra tight!

And it’s nice to see that so many men are interested in learning the art of texting. It can be tricky to say the least. Some women especially the hotter ones have awesome text game and can weed out the needy and inexperienced men in just a few texts… and then she’s gone and you ain’t getting her back. Think about this for a minute. How many guys do you think really hot chicks are texting with at the same time? How many men have these women texted over the last few years? HUNDRED’S! Now, ask yourself this, how many women not even just the hot ones have you texted with over the same amount of time? Dozens?(if your lucky and semi-good with women!) Who’s got the home field advantage? You or her? Are you texting her differently than every single other guy she gives out her number to? How needy to hang out with her are you being? Is she getting turned on just by texting you? Are you able to handle all of her tests? Do you even know what her tests are? If not, you better learn and ASAP if you are to succeed with women via text!

Here’s a link to my latest post on my blog about being a great pick-up artist and just posted an article about some of my favorite texts to send to chicks and how to use them. I hope the guys running this board are cool with me posting this and if you guys ever wanna post on my blog which gets about 600 views a day go ahead. Not looking to step on anyone shoes, just looking to share pick-up advice with other cool guys and blogs!

Glenn P.

dale December 4, 2011 at 5:28 pm

I was wondering could you maybe try and explain some of youre views to me maybe via text message my mobile number is 07772064429. And my other mobile number is 07743998257. I would be very greatful to here from you? Thanks. Youres sincerely

dale hughes

dale December 4, 2011 at 5:32 pm

I was wondering maybe do you have any ideas yourself when it comes to approaching a different sex who you find attractive? Anyone else go any options? Im very shy when it comes down to speaking to women. Not so much shy, But dont know what to talk about. Mostly tongue tied thats what i was tryna say. Any ideas?

Kyle January 2, 2012 at 8:48 am

haha most you guys are still virgins and need a website to tell you how to talk to women! like grow some fucking balls im 17 and i bet im getting laid more then you guys lmao, right now ive got 4 chicks im railing so most you guys are pathetic! i know i dont need this gay website to help me get laid i lost my vcard to a 19 year old when i was 15 been getting laid ever since, so suck it! pce

Gangsta January 5, 2012 at 7:10 pm

Just a little pickup line that has never let me down. I have used this plenty of times and I hope it works for all the other stoners in the world

You: Hey _____ I really wasted to ask you something.
______: what is it?
You: are you a good kisser _____?
_______: I dunno. <—— same answer every time lmao I'm so high
You: well… Can I find out? 🙂

Go get some pussy guys. And don't forget to wear a condom. Hahaha

jreyes January 11, 2012 at 12:02 am

playas need some help …. meet this chik in tijuana she was at the club with 3 of her friedns she is from san diego .. well i was at the club i went up to her and ask her for her number . she gave me her phone number .. but at the 5th day that i meet her
she told me she had a man i told her that i was going to stop texting her she said its ok to text . and i told her that i was going to get her email so once in a while i would say hi to her , she told me its ok to text .. she already know that i like her . i askd her if she want to meet up in tijuana at the same place this friday she told me that she havea babyshower ,, she said i see what i can do .. what should i say???? should i text her on saturday?

izzy January 12, 2012 at 3:53 pm

This is on point.

Tonyfrenzy January 14, 2012 at 1:38 pm

Great blog! Jst found evry comment interestin. Thanks Bobby, u’re so helpful. I’m on wt a girl & hope ds will change tinz +vely…

Mitch Wilson January 25, 2012 at 6:48 am

I text girls all the time. The trick is to take a long time to respond

confidencemagnet January 26, 2012 at 3:06 am

Learning how to talk to girls using text is a very simple concept. We gotta keep in mind that girls love to text and you’ll always see them doing it on their free time. I’ve found that after you’ve slept with them that they’re extremely responsive to your text if you f’ckd the sh!t outta them. They’re gonna be texting you and making sure that they’re relevant in your mind.

ricky January 27, 2012 at 8:47 am

u will fallow me if u text me…bcoz i feel btr my self in texting..9494715005

Maria February 5, 2012 at 9:32 pm

As a girl, I’m going to share a few thoughts from our side of this crazy dating game, for what it’s worth. 🙂

Texting is nice, yes. It can be a great way to get to know someone in a low-commitment environment. But to those of us who aren’t major texters, it can also be too much when a guy overdoes it (or vice-versa). It feels almost suffocating when a guy you barely know (or perhaps haven’t met yet, if it’s online dating) is texting you every day, sending “good morning” and “good night” messages when you’ve barely gotten to know each other. I think there’s a natural progression to things, and a lot of girls do like that. It doesn’t feel rushed. It doesn’t feel too pressured. Just natural. I think it also gives an air of mystery about it…we have to earn your interest a little bit. If a guy you’re only getting to know constantly flings compliments left and right, texts you all the time, and makes it overly clear that he’s smitten, it CAN feel a little too much too fast. I usually look for the nearest exit when that happens, to be honest, because I feel that he’s looking for an instant girlfriend and NOT something meaningful built on trust, natural progression (getting to know each other first), and mutual respect. It almost feels like he doesn’t want to take the time to know you first, but that he does want a girlfriend on his arm ASAP…and then you wonder if it’s just ANY girl he’d gladly put in your place if you walked away.
And of course, this can also go for girls doing this to guys as well. It’s interchangeable.

Rohit February 12, 2012 at 8:47 pm

i agree that guys do commit the mistakes mentioned here. even i do it sometimes. it is better to stop texting a girl for a while than having useless topics to talk about. this will ensure that u’ll always have topics to talk to her whenever u text. second thing, this will also add mystery, suspense, and intrigue to ur friendship with that girl which is much essential.

kamogelo February 15, 2012 at 5:08 pm

hu this is awesome. From now on i’ll try by all means to apply wat i’ve learned on your site

liam February 15, 2012 at 10:14 pm

lol {:.)

Ausgirl February 26, 2012 at 1:52 pm

Lol at Kyle’s comment… What a tool.

shalva February 29, 2012 at 1:51 pm

I like talking girls

Tao Of Badass March 16, 2012 at 6:16 pm

Always have an objective in mind when texting from my experience. Never say “hey whats” followed by “nothing just bored”. Make plans ahead of time and invite her to see if wants to join you. If she doesn’t or gives you a pretext then focus on other women.

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