How To Start A Conversation With A Girl

It's not as difficult as it looks

Talking to a girl is simple and easy and there’s nothing to it, right? Wrong.

If you’re reading this article, then you know it’s not as simple as that. It is difficult to know what to talk about with a girl. Talking to a girl you like is intimidating and tough, something that a lot of guys fret over. I know personally that I’ve gotten nervous enough talking to girls that I KNEW wanted me, I simply ignored them and left the party or bar. These are girls that I KNEW liked me, and I was STILL scared.

The thing I figured out, though, was that the hardest part about talking to a girl is knowing what to say to start a conversation. Once that got firmly in the rearview mirror, the rest of the conversation flowed simply and with ease. Here then are a few tricks I’ve learned:

- Begin the conversation immediately. Instead of talking about stupid stuff like the weather or sports or whatever, stuff you would casually talk about with everyone from the mailman to your dog walker, find an actual topic of conversation. Now, this can really be anything (and I recommend talking about something you’re passionate about, or she is) but just stay about from the clichéd, boring conversation topics.

- Get flirty like crazy right away. This is also important. By touching her on the arm when talking to her, or smiling, or making good eye contact, or by talking about sexual topics, this makes her place you far away from the “friend zone” area. Immediately, she sees you as someone she will have to think about in sexual terms. For more advice on flirting, check out this video I made:

- Use an opener. If worse comes to worse, and you can’t think of any conversation to have with this girl, check out some of the PUA openers that I rundown in order to give you the best chance at opening correctly with a girl.

After you get through the opening and start actually talking to her, it should come easy, but if it doesn’t remember these three things:

1. Express your opinions. Girls do not like pushovers, plus it will give you something passionately to talk about.

2. Don’t overdo it on the compliments. You don’t want to come off as someone who is immediately into her. Plus, compliments on how she looks always sounds ridiculous. Instead, if you have to compliment her, make it about her sense of humor or style or something like that.

3. Tease her. This is that flirting thing again. Make sure to tease her about certain things and it will make the conversation that much sexual and full of tension.

These are all some good ways on how to start a conversation with a girl.

I know you might not know exactly what to say to a girl you like or take the conversation to a flirtatious level, so I created a FREE 27 page manuscript called Small Talk Tactics: Make Small Talk Sexy.

{ 9 comments… read them below or add one }

david October 22, 2011 at 5:50 pm

how to talk to a girl

gee October 28, 2011 at 10:31 pm

pls tell me how to get a girl

january dumerjean December 11, 2011 at 4:04 am

plssssssssssssss tell me when you see a girl you would like to talk to her but you scare to talk to her tell me what you suppose to do

Paul December 18, 2011 at 1:53 am

How do you get rid of a girl?

Mitch Wilson January 25, 2012 at 5:30 am

Sweet article. I like the get flirty fast, I think that works because you definetly don’t want to get stuck in the friend zone!

kevin February 24, 2012 at 8:01 pm

Man this how you talk to a girl?
How are you doing to day my name is kevin what is your name
I think that you is so fine
Can i get your number
Or you can get my number

michael March 9, 2012 at 3:23 am

can you tell me more to get a girl to like me

micah March 29, 2012 at 11:49 pm

Please help me i see this girl everyday but she dosnt know who i am i want to talk to her but i just dont know want to say or how to follow up

karugaba April 3, 2012 at 5:50 pm

girls realy disturb u cant realy
know hw she will react to u….!1

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