How to Start a Text Conversation with a Girl You Like
Iphones, Blackberrys, Androids, oh my. All the modern technology that we have has given way to a convenience of communication that makes it infinitely easier for you as a man to go out and have the dating life you desire. Provided you know how to initiate that life and go after what makes you happy – if you don’t know how to do that – we’re here to help.
That’s all we at TSB do, is help you help yourself in the magical realm of dating. So if you’re going out and getting numbers, you’re accomplishing step one. If you don’t know what to do past the point of getting numbers, that’s where we intercede to help you. So here’s what you need to do if you’re lost on how to start a text conversation with a girl. Don’t worry – it’s happened to the best of us.
How to Start a Text Conversation to Make Her Want You
1. Make sure you have her contact details first.
I can’t stress this enough. As someone who has had experience going out and doing the whole cold-approaching PUA thing, I can’t remember the number of times that people have had stellar interactions with members of the opposite sex, then been promptly shocked when those people decide to leave the bar without swapping details with the person that they’ve just had an awesome interaction with. It has happened more times that I can count – if I had a dollar for every time, I’d be a rich man. So make sure that you go for her contact details while you’re interacting with her – you should be able to do it fairly early on, ten or fifteen minutes after everything is going well. You’re never going to be able to text her if you don’t have a legitimate way of getting ahold of her, so make sure you’re not shooting yourself in the foot every time you go out.
2. Once you get her contact details, make sure you initiate the first text.
This sets the precedent that you’ll be texting back and forth – an important dynamic to establish in a modern relationship. If you don’t have that solidified, it’s going to be very hard for you to text her later. Because she’s going to look at her phone and say something like, ‘Who is this?’ ‘hey who r u’ or ‘OMG strangers keep texting me stop’. Instead of knowing exactly who you are. When you’re trading contact details, one of the things I like doing is having her take my number and save it as something silly. So when you text her, whatever she saves it as will pop up. Which means silliness, her emotional state is spiked, and she’s already exceedingly happy to be talking to you because you had such a good conversation. That’s the best way how to start a text conversation with a girl. You can even, as a form of security, text her in the bar to initiate contact then. That’d be the best idea.
3. Be light and flirty.
She knows why you have her number. Women aren’t stupid, guys. She knows why you’d be asking for information in the first place, because they like playing the game, they enjoy being seduced in a way that makes them feel sexy instead of feeling like trollops. So be light, flirty, and make her enjoy the process. Don’t be too needy, don’t come on too strong, don’t express any emotions that are too overt from the get-go. It’ll help you out in the long run, as it’ll be much more likely she chases after you than you being the one putting in all the footwork. I’ve never understood this trend of men sending people pictures of their penises – you could just meet up with the woman and show her in real life. Instead of disseminating pictures that could come back and haunt you. What’s the point of this tangent? Light and flirty are the way to go.
4. Don’t send too many text messages when she’s not sending that many back.
That’s a form of investment. Don’t invest too heavily in a girl when she’s not investing back. If she’s not investing hard back, she needs more convincing that you have value to start doing it. She’s not going to do that if you’re one of the guys, ‘blowing up her phone’. Don’t be that guy. Send her one text message to her text message. It’s the proper way to do things. If she’s responding in a timely matter, it means that she’s very interested. If she’s not – then she’s not so much. Don’t be that guy texting her trying to make her interested. You have better things to do with your time. Things that don’t include blowing up somebody’s phone.
5. Have a large base to draw from.
It’s going to be much easier to learn how to start a text conversation with a girl if you know a lot of girls.