Texting a Girl

What to text Girls?

The Three Guidelines to Flirting

1.  Every Message Should Offer Something

Look in your phone ‘sent’ texts and see how many times you sent a girl a message like “what’s up?” or “How you doing?”

Now erase those messages, and vow to yourself from now on when your texting a girl you will never send these dull, personality-less messages.  You need to employ SMS flirting.

These messages do nothing to highlight any of your unique, fun, and playful personality, and they totally put the woman on the spot to keep the texting going.  You’re handing her control.

And since a sexy girl is probably getting  hundreds of these messages from different guys every week… they begin to repel the woman.

Every text  you send must offer some value to the woman getting it.  It must also include elements of your unique style.

A much more playful and fun message to text a girl would be  ” Stop thinking about me!:)”  or “You just popped in my head and I just wanted to say hi”

These messages don’t force her to keep the conversation going….  But they make her want to message  you back.  And they get her text flirting you.

Remember,  every message should offer value.

2.  Keep it Short, Flirty, and Fun

Texting girls is not the way to really get to know a woman.

Instead, think of it is an chance to give a girl a “sneak peak” look at what you’re like as a guy.

Show her a “movie trailer” version of your sense of humor, interests, and personality.

And flirt, A LOT.

When you’re texting a girl use the same flirtatious tone you would when you’re with her.  This means tease, neg her, and get her smiling.  Make her laugh  Make her crave getting a sms message from you.

If you’ve just met a girl at a club and you plan on sending her a message the following day… forget messages like “Hey, it’s Chris, it was good meeting you last night.  What are you up to?”

Instead, start the conversation off with something playful and flirtatious, that gives her a “sneak preview”  of your unique personality.

So a much more appealing sms for sending a woman would be “Do you speak text?” (credit Sinn)  Or “Is it too soon for casual text? I mean, I just met you. Maybe we should wait!”

I’m sure you can see how  interesting and fun it would be for her to get one of those messages as opposed to the first type?

3.  Use PUSH/PULL 

Have you sent a woman a text and she didn’t message you back for a few hours?

What went through your mind the entire time you were awaiting her response?

You probably couldn’t stop thinking about HER.

You must build intrigue and mystery when messaging women. It creates the roller coaster effect in your texts.  You want to be spontaneous,  vague, and always unpredictable.

So if you are usually texting a woman back a few minutes after she messages you… every third or fourth time wait thirty to ninety minutes to return her sms.  Sometimes wait till the next day.

This gives her the chance to think about you in her head.   It lets her experience the pleasure of eagerly anticipating your next message. This is probabliy the most important concepts to remember when using your mobile phone to flirt.

What should you Message Women?

During your first few of exchanges you’re not trying to set up a get together.  As I mentioned earlier, you are just looking to display to her that you’re a flirty and fun guy.   So you’re initial couple texts  should be sent to show this side of your personality…  and also, to see if she is a girl that you have any sort of rapport with.

Remember, the point of using your phone is to flirt, create a little rapport, and get her thinking about you.

You’re objective is to get  her to feel like she is  missing out by not being with you…Avoid answering several of the questions she asks.  Keep your messages short and sometimes mysterious,  but exploding with personality.  So, if you’re just texting to keep in touch with a girl you could send a message like:

“I just bought  the most fly pair of sneakers ever for $12. I’m pumped”

Something else should do is assume rapport.  This means that you jump right into texting her without  explaining every  aspect of your life.

“My kitten is ridiculous”

So when sending a girl a message for the first time you can send something like:

“Hey what’s up dork?”

Phone Game Blueprint

Obviously there is way more to go over about texting a girl than I can touch upon in this post.  But, I do advise checking out The 99  Best Texts of All Time as it contains over 100 specific examples of fun, playful, and flirty text messages that you can send to girls.

It gives a brilliant breakdown of how to respond to her messages, what to say to build attraction, how to increase attraction when using your phone, and examples of types of humor for texting women.

This is an extremely important part of any pickup artist (PUA) game plan, so you really need to be prepared for texting a girl.  You want to make sure you’re always SMS flirting.

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October 5, 2010 at 9:27 pm

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Tim November 19, 2010 at 1:34 am

That was cool and interesting

Connor July 22, 2011 at 8:26 am

Even with the little information and insight provided above I feel more ahead of the game than ever before

solomon September 7, 2011 at 5:50 pm

grate tips i feel ontop the game.

mike September 8, 2011 at 11:09 pm

what so i tell her dork p.s.

Robbee Rob September 12, 2011 at 1:21 am

get an inside joke with her too that puts you ahead of the game

michael September 15, 2011 at 12:35 am

this is cool i like this:)

whatthejew September 15, 2011 at 9:57 pm


roberto thomas September 20, 2011 at 8:22 am

you know its so crazy it just might work…YES is does…awesome

Schneider October 14, 2011 at 2:20 am

i think this might just work . I need alot of girls to fall for me and this guy knows what hes talking about !

Schneider October 14, 2011 at 2:21 am

this guy really knows what he’s talking abot lamo . This might work!!!!

Jiminy October 17, 2011 at 10:33 pm

wow. i randomly typed this into google just to see if it was real: ” when and what to text a girl” this was the first page that popped up and the first i clicked… turns out, its just as real and complicated as asking a girl out or flirting with a girl in person… and it makes sense… texting is so big now adays, especially with girls…. if a guy can master this, they definitely have the upper hand with girls. 2 thumbs up for this page!!

martin moodie October 18, 2011 at 10:31 pm

so i text this girl what kinda mischief are you causing today she said nothin what should i say im thinking to say u trying to chill and walk around the campus idk

Alyssa October 25, 2011 at 9:17 pm

Um…take it from a girl…some of the advice above is cool & will def work but the part about not returning the text until the next day & not answering her questions…I don’t know a single girl that would be drawn in by that…be relaxed, cheeky & sweet (not sickly sweet) & she’ll be dying to hear from you

ronney November 17, 2011 at 9:43 pm

ok , then i want to know from a girls prrspective how her side of the convo would look like if attraction is being build effitiently?

josh November 26, 2011 at 12:25 am

lol i was doing this without realizing but after a while it felt boring so i started trying to chit chat more and she lost interest so its right trust me. We texted all the time for a month and then she would never reply bcus it was things like whats up

Collin December 17, 2011 at 9:51 am

I was going to read this… But I took an arrow to the knee..

amany January 5, 2012 at 11:33 pm

daamn thats kul n i juc hop it will work

Brandon January 11, 2012 at 2:05 am

Lol @ Collin – Thumbs up bro

elite January 12, 2012 at 1:47 am

Nice advice

jeez January 17, 2012 at 5:45 am

i feel like i just jumped right ahead of the game nice advice im using at the moment

nora January 21, 2012 at 11:07 pm

If someone sent that to me I’d ignore it because not all girls like to be hit on constantly and some of them like to actually get to know a guy instead of get to know how awesome he wants you to think he is. Just a thought.

Greg January 22, 2012 at 6:27 am

I’ve been a pimp this entire time and never knew it ’til now

stavros January 23, 2012 at 8:17 pm

who ever calls a girl a dork on a text needs a slap and if the girl diga bein called a dork then she needs a slap standard

Renatinho January 27, 2012 at 12:36 am

Ain’t gun lie, this made me laugh.. and its good advice to be honest.

mohit February 4, 2012 at 8:53 pm

I in the very first message asked a girl 4 a hook up and she said yes WTF

Ryan February 8, 2012 at 12:25 am

I was messaging a girl and i was reaponding too quickly, did I me
s things up?
P.S. I’ve only done this in one conversation.

Ricky Bobby February 14, 2012 at 1:22 am

Ryan bro, you fucked up big time G!

Pretty cool advice, but my advice, FUCK TEXTING. GET AT THAT FACE TO FACE!

Ryan February 18, 2012 at 4:35 am

This is good.. I’m a freshman so if you could put more examples that people in highschool are going to be in( or use) that would be great. Keep it up

brianna February 26, 2012 at 4:39 am

And if a girl is being short with you, or only replying haha or lol, she’s probably not interested. Justttsayin. And with the whole waiting to text back, don’t wait until the next day unless you fall asleep, id say from 30 to 120 minutes, and don’t do it every text.

Kat February 26, 2012 at 8:36 am

Take this from a girl, I get impatient if they wait too long. I end up deleting our conversation for space and text someone else. Alot of times my friends do the same. Some of this advice is true, however i like getting to know them and having random conversations. 85% of the time i smile at texts are because some guy said something funny in a conversation. The more you maje a girl laugh, the better. Honestly sometimes dont jump to the whole “flirty every text from the start thing” you might want to do it some of the time but if you do it all the time a girl might get too weirded out as surprising as it sounds. Trust me, a guy flirted with me 24/7 qnd i just got annoyed and bored because we couldnt have a normal conversation. Hope i helped…

RandomDude March 15, 2012 at 2:23 am

Well honestly a lot of this is a lie… Women don’t like 24/7 flirting, or super slow responses… These are useful occasionally… and i use the word occasionally lightly because its scarcely really but whatever. Just saying if you really like a girl don’t flirt 24/7. Occasional flirting is alright of course, but not always and not in every text. I disagree with most of this but good luck using it.

Caleb March 16, 2012 at 2:30 pm

I’ve been dating my girlfriend Emma for the past few months and things aren’t too serious. This could SERIOUSLY help my relationship.

Christine March 20, 2012 at 5:29 am

1) return my texts.
2)Don’t flirt too hardcore. It makes us feel like things are moving too fast and it makes us uncomfortable.
3) Make us laugh- don’t be a creep.
dudes, don’t believe any of this. You’re gonna get slapped.

Kota March 23, 2012 at 11:20 am

Wat a nice advc.

Francis jumper K March 25, 2012 at 6:43 pm

Am already on top of the game but this ryt here is the bomb…

Spoyllur March 28, 2012 at 3:23 pm

yup i did this text thing i was in the extreme of both having a conversation without flirting makes you land in the friendzone n makes you a nice guy yes emotional connection is thea but excitement zero(it will take u a century 2 get laid) on the other hand too much flirting made me luk lyk a sleazy douche bag(it myt work easy if the girl has low self esteem eg a groupie) now getting a balance of conversation n flirting=awesome badass!True story.

Irish shmuk April 15, 2012 at 1:23 am

For all the birds who posted… have you ever realised that not every chick is like you? I mean yeah all things considered dont flirt all the time and dont wait a day, I think the chaps point is a tad extreme, but fella’s, if ya just use your head, play on cues, be funny, let her in, my personal advice (bein a gamer meself) is to include humour at the start,refer to something funny yas spoke about, quotes and references n’ sorts. Thats the sub plot of the text, while thats goin on, make sure theres a current story or topic bein discussed. I learned that haven 2 things goin on in texts adds to the level of interest on her part and makes it less likely that you’ll run outa things to say, cause you’ve given yourself a few things to fall back on in your previous texts. Lads, you have no idea how intensely hard it is gaming in Ireland, birds are just so so much more conscious and judgemental over here, so ya have to be so far beyond all this petty advice, its great like, but id challenge any PUA from the states to test the water over here. And ya never know, I might just bring my advanced game to use 😉 /BuC\

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