The Three Guidelines to Flirting
1. Every Message Should Offer Something
Look in your phone ‘sent’ texts and see how many times you sent a girl a message like “what’s up?” or “How you doing?”
Now erase those messages, and vow to yourself from now on when your texting a girl you will never send these dull, personality-less messages. You need to employ SMS flirting.
These messages do nothing to highlight any of your unique, fun, and playful personality, and they totally put the woman on the spot to keep the texting going. You’re handing her control.
And since a sexy girl is probably getting hundreds of these messages from different guys every week… they begin to repel the woman.
Every text you send must offer some value to the woman getting it. It must also include elements of your unique style.
A much more playful and fun message to text a girl would be ” Stop thinking about me!:)” or “You just popped in my head and I just wanted to say hi”
These messages don’t force her to keep the conversation going…. But they make her want to message you back. And they get her text flirting you.
Remember, every message should offer value.
2. Keep it Short, Flirty, and Fun
Texting girls is not the way to really get to know a woman.
Instead, think of it is an chance to give a girl a “sneak peak” look at what you’re like as a guy.
Show her a “movie trailer” version of your sense of humor, interests, and personality.
And flirt, A LOT.
When you’re texting a girl use the same flirtatious tone you would when you’re with her. This means tease, neg her, and get her smiling. Make her laugh Make her crave getting a sms message from you.
If you’ve just met a girl at a club and you plan on sending her a message the following day… forget messages like “Hey, it’s Chris, it was good meeting you last night. What are you up to?”
Instead, start the conversation off with something playful and flirtatious, that gives her a “sneak preview” of your unique personality.
So a much more appealing sms for sending a woman would be “Do you speak text?” (credit Sinn) Or “Is it too soon for casual text? I mean, I just met you. Maybe we should wait!”
I’m sure you can see how interesting and fun it would be for her to get one of those messages as opposed to the first type?
3. Use PUSH/PULL
What went through your mind the entire time you were awaiting her response?
You probably couldn’t stop thinking about HER.
You must build intrigue and mystery when messaging women. It creates the roller coaster effect in your texts. You want to be spontaneous, vague, and always unpredictable.
So if you are usually texting a woman back a few minutes after she messages you… every third or fourth time wait thirty to ninety minutes to return her sms. Sometimes wait till the next day.
This gives her the chance to think about you in her head. It lets her experience the pleasure of eagerly anticipating your next message. This is probabliy the most important concepts to remember when using your mobile phone to flirt.
What should you Message Women?
During your first few of exchanges you’re not trying to set up a get together. As I mentioned earlier, you are just looking to display to her that you’re a flirty and fun guy. So you’re initial couple texts should be sent to show this side of your personality… and also, to see if she is a girl that you have any sort of rapport with.
Remember, the point of using your phone is to flirt, create a little rapport, and get her thinking about you.
You’re objective is to get her to feel like she is missing out by not being with you…Avoid answering several of the questions she asks. Keep your messages short and sometimes mysterious, but exploding with personality. So, if you’re just texting to keep in touch with a girl you could send a message like:
“I just bought the most fly pair of sneakers ever for $12. I’m pumped”
Something else should do is assume rapport. This means that you jump right into texting her without explaining every aspect of your life.
“My kitten is ridiculous”
So when sending a girl a message for the first time you can send something like:
“Hey what’s up dork?”
Phone Game Blueprint
Obviously there is way more to go over about texting a girl than I can touch upon in this post. But, I do advise checking out The 99 Best Texts of All Time as it contains over 100 specific examples of fun, playful, and flirty text messages that you can send to girls.
It gives a brilliant breakdown of how to respond to her messages, what to say to build attraction, how to increase attraction when using your phone, and examples of types of humor for texting women.
This is an extremely important part of any pickup artist (PUA) game plan, so you really need to be prepared for texting a girl. You want to make sure you’re always SMS flirting.